With three little (and oftentimes very LOUD) boys at home, I find myself going a little crazy at times. I can feel my patience running out and feel the anxiety monster creeping in. This happens more quickly when I have neglected my own self-care, or at certain times of the month when my hormones are shifting into high gear. I’ve been trying to find ways to cope and tools I can use in those moments when things are putting me on edge and I feel like I could very easily bite someone’s head off. Enter: the mama timeout.
The mama timeout can take many forms, depending on what your abilities are in the moment. When I have two toddlers at home with me, I might put them in their high chairs, give them a snack, and throw the iPad on for a 15-30 minutes. Then I will go to another room and put on some music, try to meditate (try being the operative word – I’m not often very successful…), or read a book or magazine for a few minutes — whatever helps shift my brain into a different mode.
Sometimes taking a quiet break is too hard to manage, so I’ll try aromatherapy with essential oils. Diffusing oils is a great way to both start and end the day. I like to diffuse Happy Joy in the morning to get everyone in good moods. If I’m working from home I sometimes need Energy Boost instead of that afternoon cup of coffee. And Peace and Quiet or Tranquility (or both!) in the evening during dinner gets everyone calmed down. I also like to diffuse Sleepy in our bedrooms to help with, well, sleep. I also sometimes use a Sleepy roller (made the same way as I linked to above but with relaxing oils) and roll on the bottoms of feet before bed. You can find even more about how I use oils in our home in this post.
I’ve also recently discovered some amazing candles from Chesapeake Bay Candle that incorporate some of my favorite essential oil combos. My three favorites are Balance + Harmony from the Mind & Body Collection, Focus + Patience also from the Mind & Body Collection, and No. 11 Neroli & Bergamot from the Alassis line.
When I’m trying to create a calmer, happier environment for all of us, I burn the Balance + Harmony. With the Sandalwood, Rosewood, and Orange Oil, our moods are uplifted and balanced. The floral notes create such a pleasant aroma combination and just make me feel happy. This is the one I like to start the day with, since morning schedules and crabby toddlers often set a chaotic tone.
When I need a little help in the patience department or am trying to work from home while caring for my kids, I light the Focus + Patience candle. This scent has notes of black tea, cinnamon bark and cedar, and contains essential oils of Birch Tar, Cedarwood, Patchouli. It helps slow my pace (in a good way) and restores my patience. I also love how it diffuses the candlelight and the wooden lid.
I think my favorite is the Alassis No. 11 candle. It contains two of my favorite essential oils: Neroli & Bergamot. Bergamot helps ease tension and stress and Neroli helps reduce anxiety and anger and is a big reliever of chronic anxiety, which is something so many mamas deal with. And the scent is just heavenly — totally relaxing for my mama timeouts!
In the morning (or all day long) when I need a little help perking up, I like to burn the Wild Lemongrass Jar Candle from the Heritage collection. The combination of eucalyptus, lemongrass, peppermint, and spearmint really help me wake up. And it smells so good!
How do you decompress, destress, or give yourself a timeout? Are you able to prioritize self-care in your home?
This post is sponsored by Chesapeake Bay Candle Co. but the opinions are my own.