After a little hiatus, Behind the Veil is back.  Our blogger bride today is Kristina from 100 Layer Cake, and she has some fantastic advice and insight for you planning brides! 

As a wedding blogger, what is your favorite part of other people’s weddings?

New ideas for decor and flowers and fashion that I haven’t seen before. As the blogger, I shamelessly love beautiful flowers and gorgeous styling and pretty paper and all of that. As a normal human, I know those aren’t the most important parts, but they’re so inspiring!

What was your favorite part of your wedding?  

Complete opposite of what I like about other people’s weddings. Our ceremony. Which was a total surprise actually and the credit goes 100% to my brother-in-law, who married us. He did such an outstanding job crafting our ceremony, and I loved that half hour in the early evening light standing with my husband and listening to our story being told to our guests. It was funny and sweet and touching all at the same time. And after the ceremony, my parents had a number of their friends tell them how much they’d enjoyed it. That it was the best they’d ever attended. And that even though they didn’t know us very well before, (being parents’ friends), they really felt like they did after witnessing our marriage and that they were so happy to have been a part of that moment with us.

What was the first piece of wedding planning you did (booked venue, bought dress, etc.)?

Booked our photographer. I’d seen Michele’s work on Orangette (Molly hired her for her wedding too) and I knew that she had to shoot ours. And she lives in Bellingham, WA. In fact, we chose our wedding date based on her availability. Photos are the only thing you have after all the planning and the parties are done, after all!

In your opinion, what is one vendor no wedding can be without?

Photographer! I know people who decided not to hire a professional for their wedding and most regret it after the fact. 

In your opinion, what is one thing or vendor that you think brides on a budget can do without (or at least do sparingly)? 

Event styling (obviously). an expensive wedding cake (we had a family friend make ours and even though it didn’t look like a wedding cake, it was delicious!). Flowers, or at least you could hire a florist to make your bouquets and then have family and friends help with the table decor. Wildflowers in simple jars will never go out of style.

What was your favorite source of inspiration for your own wedding?

Hmm. I definitely bought Martha every quarter. I was planning my wedding before wedding blogs became more like magazines, so I tended to read personal wedding blogs of women getting married and planning the same time I was. I’m still friends with some of them!

Did you do an inspiration board?  

Not really. I couldn’t ever commit to anything! So terrible. I think it would have helped if I would have done one though… now that I’m a seasoned wedding inspiration professional. But Snippet & Ink was a huge source of constant inspiration. Kathryn is uniquely good at what she does.

Your favorite wedding memory?

We took our photos before the wedding and it was amazing to spend the entire afternoon with my husband taking photos in the desert alone. It made me so much more relaxed going into the ceremony AND meant that we didn’t have to miss the cocktail party!

Your favorite wedding detail?

This isn’t really a detail, but it was an excellent part of the wedding… The hotel where we were married was built in the 30s and it has a real speakeasy under the kitchen. So after the reception was over, we had an after party in the speakeasy with poker tables and dealers and a bar. It was awesome. And my husband had to drag me out at like 2am, with a bottle of champagne in my hand.

Were you a DIY bride?  If so, what did you DIY?  

I was! I am a DIY-er by nature so I couldn’t resist the opportunity to take on WAY too many projects for our wedding. Let’s see, I made little succulent garden centerpieces, and huge succulent planters to line the aisle. I designed our invites. I grew green and white and beige pumpkins to use as decor (bonus points!). I made jam for our rehearsal dinner favors. I packaged our favors using dates from a local date farm. Ummmmm. Geez! I’m kind of forgetting now. How strange! I collected 100 vintage pin flower frogs and used them as place card holders. I made our table numbers using vintage palm spring post cards. It was so much work and definitely satisfying, but oh man. There are sooo many talented event designers now it would be tempting to hire one if I were to do it again now.

Describe your wedding style.

Maybe vintage California Garden party, but with a Rat Pack vibe to honor the hey day of Palm Springs. I wanted it to feel timeless, but also modern and relaxed… we really just wanted to have a big party, with a great band and delicious cocktails.

If you could offer one piece of advice to planning brides, what would it be?

If you love crafting and projects and lists, go DIY crazy! If you don’t ever care to pick up a glue gun in your life, don’t feel pressured to be a DIY-er. Your wedding should be fun and involve as little stress as possible. Some of us thrive on chaos and projects, some of us would prefer to be at the spa in the weeks leading up to the wedding. Both experiences are perfect!

How did you make your wedding YOU?

Hmm. I think every wedding planned by the bride is personal. Even if you’re not thinking about making it “you”, by planning the details yourself, you’re inherently infusing your celebration with the things that are important to you and your fiance.

To see a full post on Kristina’s fabulous Palm Springs wedding (trust me, it is worth checking out to see her gorgeous dress alone!) go here.  Thanks so much, Kristina for taking the time to share with us.  xx