I’m so torn. As a bride, I really wanted to wait to see my groom, but as a blogger I totally get why it can be such a good idea. Brides who didn’t do one swear by sticking to tradition, and brides who do look don’t regret seeing each other before the ceremony. Photographers love them. So who’s right? Here’s my two cents:
A first look can serve several purposes, the obvious being that you get more photos out of the way before the ceremony so you have more time after for other photos and mingling with your guests. It also helps you get over any pre-wedding jitters, major bouts of tears, and lets you get a makeup touch up from those tears. Plus, the first look makes for some great photos.
Here is why I didn’t do a first look: Seeing my husband at the end of the aisle for the first time on our wedding day was the absolute best moment of my wedding, maybe of my life (until I had a baby). Of course I didn’t know that when I made the decision not to do one, but both my husband and I agreed we wanted to wait to see each other. That anticipation, that seeing each other in front of all of our friends and family and not seeing anyone else but each other in that moment, and that joy was priceless. Plus, it led to this:
Now, I’ve seen a lot of great “first look” emotional shots too. That shot is one of my all-time favorites. I think the first time you see each other is going to be emotional, but I love that ours was part of the ceremony.
But there are some fabulous first look photos to be had as well. Case in point:
So, what do you think? Say yes to a first look or wait till the ceremony? I’d love to hear what you did or plan to do in your wedding or which you like to see best. Chime in!