Hi all!  So I know we haven’t had a Behind the Veil feature for a while, but with the holidays and all my lovely blogger friends out there being so busy with their own blogs, I’ve gotten behind on getting new features for you.  But I’m making up for it today!  Today we have Megan from Glamour and Grace sharing her wedding advice and details with us.

As a wedding blogger, what is your favorite part of other people’s weddings?

I really love all the intimate moments. I’m such a sucker for the first dance and the father/daughter, mother/son dances. I’ve even teared up at weddings where I don’t even know the couple, I’m such a sappy romantic.

What was the first piece of wedding planning you did (booked venue, bought dress, etc.)?

My first purchase was actually my dress. Right after I got engaged, I had to go back to school out of state for my last semester in college. I wanted to go dress shopping with my mom and sister while I was down there with them so we went to a couple shops. The dress I ended up loving was a trunk show gown they just got in, I couldn’t take pictures of it and there would be no other way for me to ever try it on again, so I went back the next day and got it. Honestly, afterwards, I wish I had looked around more. Don’t get me wrong, the dress was gorgeous, just not quite as ‘me’ as I would have liked. I think having the pressure of the ‘it’s a trunk show gown, if you want it get it now’ made me rationalize any doubts I had. 

In your opinion, what is one vendor no wedding can be without?

Definitely an awesome photographer! Being a photographer myself, this was my top priority. It took me a while to finally find Tina (of Tina Sargeant Studios) and I’m so glad I did! I know everyone says it, but it really is the only thing that you are left with at the end of the day and what your grandchildren will have later to remember you by. Finding someone whose work you love and also whose personality you click well with is very important.

In your opinion, what is one thing or vendor that you think brides can do without (or at least do sparingly)?

I think favors are something that don’t need to be a big priority in the scheme of things. Ones that are minimal cost and maximum usage from guests are the best (usually food works best). We had a dessert bar at our wedding so we just made little to go boxes for everyone to take home. We were already having the desserts so it just made sense for the guests to help us clean house and take some of their favorites home.

What was your favorite source of inspiration for your own wedding?

I didn’t really come across wedding blogs until the end of my planning so most of my inspiration came from The Knot, Martha Stewart Weddings, and Grace Ormonde. My favorite blog when I found them was Vintage Glam Weddings (which is now Ruffled).

Do you do an inspiration board?  

I wish I did have an inspiration board, but all my inspiration was torn out of magazines. Brides have it so easy these days with Pinterest!

Your favorite wedding memory?

I think my favorite memory was coming out of the ceremony and just holding Mark and being excited that I was now his wife. We were waiting there in the hall for the rest of the bridal party to come out, everyone was talking and happy, but there were a few moments then where it felt like time stood still and it was just the two of us absorbing our wedded bliss 🙂 I also loved when Tina snuck us away during the reception to take some amazing pics in Lyceum’s old elevator.

Your favorite wedding detail?

My favorite detail was definitely my custom made birdcage veil with pearls and black and white feathers from Unveiled Bridal Designs. I had mine right before birdcage veils became so popular, so I loved having something so unique and so me! 

Were you a DIY bride?  If so, what did you DIY?  

I DIYed quite a bit. I designed all of the table numbers, escort cards, programs, and other paper goods for the reception. My dad made my cake stand and my sister made a beautiful illustrated map for our invitations. We also made our own photo booth with a damask print shower curtain and a box of fun props. The whole cocktail hour decorations were all DIY as well, including the centerpieces.

Describe your wedding style.

Definitely vintage glamour. 

If you could offer one piece of advice to planning brides, what would it be?

It would definitely be stick to who you are and what you want, don’t let anyone deter you from your vision. I had quite a few vendors I met with that didn’t understand what I was doing (one even insulted my color choices) and they tried to get me to do things ‘the way they had always done them’. Stay true to you and be sure and find vendors who follow and support your vision.

Was there anything about your wedding you would change?

If I could change anything, it would definitely be to do a first look. I was perfectly calm and collected through the whole time getting ready, then right when we lined up to walk down the aisle, I lost it. My emotions got the best of me and I was blubbering through the whole ceremony. I would have loved to have a moment to release some of the emotions with Mark and then be able to enjoy the ceremony rather than fighting back tears trying to audibly say my vows. 

Element you think is most overlooked when it comes to planning a wedding:

I think a lot of people forget to think about music. The sound you hear when entering a space is just as important as what you see. I have been to too many weddings where the decor gives off one feel while the music something completely different. I made sure to collect the perfect old Havana songs for our Cuban cocktail hour and 1940’s tunes a la Sabrina for the reception dinner. You can design the most elegant space, but if 98 Degrees is playing in the background, there is a huge disconnect.

How did you make your wedding YOU?

I really wanted everyone to come into the reception space and say “This is so Megan” and they definitely did. Everyone knows I love everything vintage and Audrey Hepburn, and my favorite colors are black and white and turquoise so it was perfect and very classy. Vintage can be a bit girly, but Mark got his own space with the cocktail hour. Both his parents are from Cuba, so we did an old Havana night club theme with fun Cuban music and dominoes for guests to play and hang out.

{all photos by Tina Sargeant Studios}

A big thanks to Megan for sharing with us today!  Such a lovely wedding.  xx