Jonathan and I decided not to see each other before the wedding (one of the few traditions we stuck to) and I’m so glad we didn’t. I know a lot of people advocate ‘first looks’ and I understand why, but when we first met eyes it was the most amazing feeling and I will never, EVER forget that. Best part of the day. Well, that and downing our signature cocktails while breaking it down on the dance floor.
Jonathan and I wrote our wedding ceremony ourselves (which you can find here). We had a ring warming ceremony during the prelude music. Our wedding bands were passed around all of our guests in a bird’s nest so that our guests could place their well wishes and blessings on them. I made DIY’d our programs (I covered white cardboard CD holders in lace, inserted pages, and attached letterpress monograms to the front) and they also contained a CD of some of our wedding music and some of our favorite songs as a couple.All of the prelude music was by the Vitamin String Quartet, the bridesmaids walked down the aisle to the VSQ’s version of Coldplay’s “Yellow” (one of my favorites and a song I sing to my baby now). I walked down the aisle to T.V. Carpio’s version of “I Want to Hold Your Hand” by The Beatles. My father passed away ten years prior, so my mother walked me part of the way down the aisle, and my brother (who was also a groomsman) joined us for the rest of the walk.We had two readings during the ceremony, one given by a family friend of my husband’s, which we chose. It perfectly described our idea of marriage and I really loved it. The other was done by my adoptive grandmother Norma, who at 82 traveled from Ohio to California. She wrote us a sort of ‘this is your life’ type of poem. It was hilarious and touching at the same time and had everyone laughing and crying.One of my favorite stories though, is that once I got down the aisle to my teary husband I looked at his jacket and saw a very faint wet spot. I smiled at him and whispered, “who spilled?” And I was right – one of the pre-ceremony beers he and his groomsmen had partaken in had found its way onto his jacket. And I’m told as soon as it happened one of his groomsmen looked at him and said “you’re f***ed!” Apparently I have a reputation. No one noticed but me.
Side note: the one thing I didn’t really like about our venue was that gazebo. I just really wasn’t a big fan. But we loved the rest of the venue so much that I decided it wasn’t a deal breaker and I tried to make it less cheesy by keeping the decor on it simple and organic with vines and twigs and just a bit of florals. I think our florist, Greenwich Floral Design, did a great job at keeping it as “cheesy-less” (yes, it’s a word!) as possible.