As I was expecting my third baby I often wondered how I would manage my other two children with a newborn. I wanted to make sure they all got enough love and attention and that all of their needs were met. I was afraid my middle child would be too rough with the baby, since he was only 17 months older. And I was pretty sure I would never conquer leaving the house with all of them on my own ever again.
In all honesty, having two under two was way harder for me than having three kids total. With my oldest being 3 1/2 years older than my middle, I hadn’t yet faced the challenges and struggles of having two so close in age. I definitely found that to be the hardest part. And probably the biggest challenge for me was something that never occurred to me until I had the new baby and was facing the issue head on — how the heck do I breastfeed the newborn while managing my toddler at the same time!? Read More
As a work-from-home mom with little ones at home, there are two things I desperately need to make it through each day: coffee and wifi. My coffee never fails me. But my wifi? Ugh, my wifi… We live in a home built in the 1930’s with lots of cellular and wifi dead zones. We can only FaceTime in one room, I have to hold my phone in a very specific way to get any service in my bed. And the wifi never works in the boys’ room, which means no iPad games or movies in bed on sick days. On top of all that, my wifi was constantly in need of rebooting. When you only have an hour nap to get work done or desperately need your kids to watch a show on the iPad so you can take a quick shower, those dead zones and reboots are a real pain in the ass. But all that changed thanks to Eero! Read More
At first I titled this post 5 Things Every SAHM Needs to Do For Herself Everyday. But I didn’t want to exclude work from home moms. And just including moms that stay home excludes mothers who work outside of the home, and I didn’t want to do that either. And then I thought “don’t dads deserve these things too?” And yes, they do. We all do. So really this post applies to everyone, but I can only speak to my experience as a stay-at-home/work-from-home mother and my abilities to accomplish these 5 things and how much they help me when I do. But just know I think you all, we all, are deserving of feeling good and doing things for ourselves 🙂 So here are the 5 things I think we all can benefit from doing everyday, and that I know from personal experience we stay-home mommas sometimes struggle with doing for ourselves: Read More
I love the idea of weekly or monthly documentation of your baby’s first year and I’ve actually gotten better at it with each baby I’ve had, thanks to Instagram. With my first baby I just took the monthly photos, but I didn’t write things down very often. I started a baby book with him and kept track of most of his milestones, but the photos and memories aren’t all in one place. With Calvin, I started both weekly and monthly photo projects, posting them to instagram with specific hashtags so I could go back and see the photos all together for comparing and printing later. I did the same with Quincy as well and I think his photos are my favorite of the three. Maybe because he’s such a chub 🙂
A few tips for doing your own monthly milestone documenting:
If I could go back in time seven years to when I was pregnant with Charlie and didn’t know anything about having a baby or what I would need, I would have a lot of advice and tips for my inexperienced self. Three kids later, I have a list of favorite things that I would recommend to any parent to buy before baby or put on their registry. As a mom who has now done the baby stage three times to three very different babies, I feel like I have a pretty good idea of what works and what doesn’t and I hope that knowledge and experience can help you when you are preparing and shopping for your own baby. I’m doing a takeover of BabyList’s Instagram feed sharing a few of those and some tips for other parents, but I wanted to share more here with more detailed explanations of why I love them so much. And the best part is, I’ve teamed up with BabyList and the brands to give one lucky reader all of the recommended products. So be sure to make it all the way to the bottom of this post to enter! (GIVEAWAY CLOSED)Read More
That photo above is of me as a brand new mom, with a three week old baby Charlie. I was tired and happy and struggling with breastfeeding and overwhelmed and insecure and scared and so in love. This was before my postpartum depression showed up. Before I experienced intense anxiety. Before I developed Hashimotos (and eventually hypothyroidism). That first six weeks, six months, year of motherhood was HARD. If you have one baby and you are thinking “man, this shit is HARD” you’re right. But you know what makes having one baby seem easy? Having two. And you know what makes having two babies seem easy? Having three. And you know what makes having three seem easy? I think you know…
I often have people comment on a post on Instagram how they see me with three and don’t know how I can handle it because they are struggling with one or two. Well you know what? I felt the same exact way. Charlie was two before I even thought “ok, maybe I can have another.” And I seriously doubted ever feeling capable of feeling normal again after having three kids. But, I do. It took a year, but I got there. I think it took having three kids to show me that I can do it, that I am good at this, and that I need to listen to my gut.
There were days when I didn’t think I was going to make it. I don’t know what I thought was going to happen — I just knew it seemed insurmountable to make it through the day. But slowly, day by day, it got better. If I could go back and tell that new mom a few things this is what I would say: Read More